There's an old Cherokee Native American story that I use for coaching goalies and teaching mental toughness.

I discuss this parable in my goalie book however I wanted to share it here on the blog for those who haven't yet read the book.

It's called the Tale of Two Wolves and in this post I'd like to share the story with you and explain how I use it to increase a goalie's mental toughness.

The Tale of Two Wolves Parable

An old Cherokee grandfather is talking with his young warrior grandson. He explains that inside of every human there are two wolves who are constantly at war with one another.

One wolf is bad. This wolf represents all of the bad qualities known to man. He stands for things like anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, shame, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other wolf is good and he represents everything great. Things like joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.

The grandson stops for a moment to think about that and then responds, "Grandfather, which wolf will win?"

The one you feed - replies the Grandfather.

Feed the Good Wolf

Our emotions are a funny thing. They are a simple choice but they are not an easy choice.

They are a simple choice because if a goalie has to choose between feeling bad, upset, angry, and playing poorly versus feeling great, confident, and playing well they will choose the latter every single time. Simple choice.

But unfortunately emotions are not an easy choice. Many goalies are hard-wired with bad emotional habits.

When a ball gets past a goaltender many go into an auto-response mode where uncontrollable emotions like anger, embarrassment, shame, and guilt come pouring out. This emotional response is unhealthy and further hinders their performance.

It's a tough concept to learn but something that every lacrosse goalies needs to realize is our emotions are a choice.

Every lacrosse goalie is facing an important battle on the field - the fight between good and bad thoughts.

Which wolf will win - whatever one you feed.

Feed the Good Wolf In Practice

Emotions and the mental game are extremely important to develop in young goalies. If left unattended they could go in disastrous ways. But when honed you develop a goalie who is not only confident in the crease but also in life.

Emotions are so important because they will ultimately dictate how you perform throughout a competition. Emotions for goalies are often strong and can linger well after a goal and hurt the performance of the next play.

Therefore I always spend time teaching young goalies the story of the Two Wolves.

Then during practice or games "feed the good wolf" becomes an instant teaching phrase that communicates a powerful lesson in just 4 words.

When the goalie gives up a goal, and they get upset, slamming the stick against the pipe, yelling at the defenseman, showing horrible body language, or feeling guilty that they should have made the save, they're feeding the bad wolf.

"Feed the good wolf" reminds them that they do indeed have a choice.

They can repeat the positive verbal triggers and get back into the right mental space even after giving up a goal.

Always feed the good wolf.

Training Goalies to Have Positive Emotional Responses

The first step in feeding the good wolf is learning to identify your own negative and self-defeating thoughts. 

Typical negative thoughts a goalie could have include "I suck at this," "I'm a horrible goalie",  "I’m not good enough," or, "I don’t belong on the team." All young goalies have these thoughts at times, so take a moment right now and identify some common negative thoughts about your goalie play that run through your mind while you are in between in the pipes.

Now instead of feeding the bad wolf with those self-critical thoughts, try feeding the good wolf with an encouraging statement ("Bring It!"). Mentally beating yourself up does no good. Instead, train to gain clear control of your thinking process. By learning to feed the good wolf we're building mental muscle, improving our mood, and upping our goalie performance.

When the bad wolf rears its ugly head during a game or practice, stop it in its tracks. Self-talk (i.e., saying words or short phrases to oneself) should be positive:  Stop. Breathe. Reset. "I'm a quick, dominant goalie, bring it on!".

Although you probably cannot eliminate all of your negative thoughts, you do have the power to challenge these thoughts and replace them with more positive and useful ideas. Seek to improve the quality of your thoughts and to quiet the mind. 

To perform at your peak level on the lacrosse field, always feed the good wolf!

Conclusion

Within every goalie is a fight between two wolves - good and evil.

The good wolf represents everything positive while the bad wolf represents everything negative. Whatever wolf you feed will become the dominant one and completely overrule the competition.

Whenever you step onto the lacrosse field - Feed the good wolf.

Until next time! Coach Damon

Anyone have any other stories they use for mental training? I'm always curious to learn more. Leave me a note down below in the comments.